Madam, – In the light of recent articles highlighting the prevalence of bullying in Ireland, (Kate Holmquist Weekend Review, September 18th Marie Murray, HEALTHplus, September 21st), is it time to ask ourselves if aspects of our culture could be facilitating or even contributing to this tragic problem whereby those who do not “fit in to” the ideal social mould are subject to life-damaging distress?
If the reports are accurate, schools, the Department of Education and (mental?) health practitioners, either deny the problem or ignore feelings of distress in those who present with health difficulties. This points to a wider cultural attitude that sweeps any events evoking emotional discomfort under the carpet.
It is difficult for school staff to face their failure to deal constructively with incidents of bullying, and even more so for a parent to acknowledge that one’s child or a family member is engaging in intimidating behaviour. Solid support structures are essential, but so also is examining our attachment to success, “getting on” at all costs, be it in politics, making money, winning at sports and portraying the celebrity image.
Does such a cultural ethos filter down into teenage culture where difference, and consequent failure to be “cool”, attracts negative attitudes towards, or even attacks on those who manifest “undesirable” aspects which we would shun in ourselves?
If the adult world is blind to such events which result in a young person carrying a burden of shame and guilt, as Marie Murray describes, this is surely an adult problem which ought to arouse a response in the adults responsible for safeguarding the boundaries around vulnerable children.
Perhaps more emphasis on participation rather than competition and winning, and facilitating openness towards expressing uncomfortable emotions, especially in the spheres of education and health, might go some way to addressing this serious issue. – Yours, etc,