‘Where and how does a man in his 50s meet new and interesting people?’Tell Me About It: Dating in Ireland has changed and the old idea of meeting someone in a pub is not as successful as it once wasWed Jan 03 2024 - 06:01
‘Many of my relationships crumbled following my cancer diagnosis’Tell Me About It: Accepting your friends’ faults means you may be able to talk to them without bitternessWed Dec 20 2023 - 06:01
‘My wife is a fantastic woman, my soulmate and an incredible mother, but our marriage is sexless’Tell Me About It: Daring to talk about deeply personal issues creates intimacy and of course it comes with the risk of rejectionWed Dec 13 2023 - 06:01
‘I am battling with alcohol withdrawal and now feel like ending my marriage’Tell Me About It: You have stopped drinking, and this is quite an achievement, but the next step is to engage with your wife and in a sustained and real mannerWed Dec 06 2023 - 06:01
‘Our son is getting married soon, but we think he’s making a very big mistake’Tell Me About It: ‘His wife-to-be comes from a broken home where all her siblings have gone their separate ways’Wed Nov 29 2023 - 06:01
‘My wife has a long-term illness and we have not had sex in almost 14 years’Tell Me About It: ‘I am sad all the time and frustrated at the total lack of romance or sex in my life’Wed Nov 22 2023 - 06:01
‘I came to resent my parents as I grew older and now I feel guilt about inheriting their wealth’Tell Me About It: I left the country as soon as I could as I could not bear to be the sole carer for both my parents, whom I had come to resent as I grew olderWed Nov 15 2023 - 06:01
‘I’m considering ending a five-year relationship, but living in a small town I’m worried I may end up single forever’Tell Me About It: I know he loves me and wants the relationship, but I feel my own needs aren’t being metWed Nov 08 2023 - 06:01
‘My elderly mum is a good person, but she made my childhood and teenage years as painful as she could’Tell Me About It: ‘I have to keep emotional distance for my own mental health, but it doesn’t prevent me from feeling guilty’Wed Nov 01 2023 - 06:01
‘Our neighbours on both sides have drums. I feel under siege’Tell Me About It: ‘I can hear it anywhere I go in the house. I feel under siege’Wed Oct 25 2023 - 06:01
‘How does a father in Ireland have a relationship with his children when the mother prevents it?’Tell Me About It: ‘Everyone I have spoken to over the last four years, all the guards, therapists, doctors, clinical psychologists, lawyers, fathers, even the mothers, openly admit that the Irish legal system is unfair against fathers’Wed Oct 18 2023 - 06:01
‘I’m frightened of spending retirement with my husband, I’m not sure he is someone I would choose again’Tell Me About It: We were pregnant (at 20) so got married and, in retrospect, it was way too early in the relationshipWed Oct 11 2023 - 06:01
‘I’ve met a wonderful man, but he feels guilty about moving on’Tell Me About It: ‘His wife died of cancer a couple years ago and they had 20 years of a wonderful relationship’Wed Oct 04 2023 - 06:01
‘My relative’s extreme hoarding and self-neglect are out of control’Tell Me About It: Her house is infested with rodents, she does not use a fridge or wash, but refuses our helpWed Sept 27 2023 - 06:01
‘My fiancé is great, but I don’t feel attracted to him’Tell Me About It: ‘I have been happy for most part in the relationship except I never feel satisfied, and he doesn’t want sex much either’Wed Sept 20 2023 - 06:01
My husband suffered a brief psychiatric illness and I feel unable to tell him about my medical diagnosis Tell Me About It: I have just been diagnosed with adult-onset Type 1 diabetes and I am adapting to a new way of living, new diet and medicationWed Sept 13 2023 - 05:31
‘I have considered giving my mother the ultimatum of me or her boyfriend’Tell Me About It: I feel everything in my life has been a lie – my mother is dating and says her love for my (late) father was like that for a brotherWed Sept 06 2023 - 06:01
‘When we go shopping, my boyfriend – who earns a considerable salary – will always steal one item’Tell Me About It: Addressing his behaviour needs to be seen as a joint project for the two of youWed Aug 30 2023 - 06:01
‘I thought my partner was having an online affair, but then I realised there was more to it’Tell Me About It: He has been seeing doctors online, in many countries, on almost a weekly basis due to his anxiety about his healthWed Aug 23 2023 - 06:01
‘I’m worried about my 16-year-old son and his abhorrent, right-wing views’Tell Me About It: ‘We are horrified with some of the things he has said about refugees’Wed Aug 16 2023 - 06:01
‘My neighbour sunbathes naked on sunny days and it’s making me uncomfortable’Tell Me About It: ‘He waves and then proceeds to lie in a very explicit fashion. I simply do not know what to do’Wed Aug 09 2023 - 06:01
‘My girlfriend has worn me down and I feel she wants to shape me into her corporate partner’Tell Me About It: ‘I had thought I wanted to marry her, but I have grave concerns about this as I think she is very controlling’Wed Aug 02 2023 - 06:01
‘My family don’t particularly like me and I despair about retiring and spending more time with them’Tell Me About It: A reader is not relishing retirement because of his troubled relationship with his wife and childrenWed Jul 26 2023 - 06:00
‘My husband has no interest in having a sexual relationship’Tell Me About It: ‘It has been more than five years since any intimacy took place. I feel entitled to look for my needs to be met elsewhere’Wed Jul 19 2023 - 06:01
‘I’m in my 30s and have grown out of “sessioning” but worry about sustaining important friendships’Tell Me About It: A lot of the most memorable times with friends involve going out and staying out well into the next morning, fuelled by recreational drugsWed Jul 12 2023 - 06:01
‘I was married for three decades. Why did I stay when I was so unhappy?’ Tell Me About It: I was married for 30 years and I wonder why I allowed myself to remain sad, unhappy and pretty much unheard for so longWed Jul 05 2023 - 06:01
‘We are at our wits’ end. Our adult daughter still lives with us and her boyfriend has started to settle here too’Tell Me About It: Their plans to go travelling, instead of focusing on their careers, concern us as the current situation will likely resume when they returnWed Jun 28 2023 - 06:01
‘My mum wants me back in Ireland, but now an Aussie woman is pregnant with my baby’Tell Me About It: I feel very conflicted: I do not want to repeat the past and have my child grow up without a dadWed Jun 21 2023 - 11:19
‘I have been married for 49 years, but now it seems to be on a rocky road’Tell Me About It: ‘I don’t know what to do. It feels like I’m not that attractive to her’Wed Jun 14 2023 - 06:01
‘I work for a company owned by siblings who don’t talk to each other. It’s ruining my life’Tell Me About It: ‘I have shares in the company and am very invested in it succeeding but my partner tells me that I should leave’Wed Jun 07 2023 - 06:01
‘We sleep in different rooms, haven’t had sex in four years and we bicker. I’m tempted to start casual dating’Tell Me About It: One of you needs to be courageous enough to demand that the relationship goes under the microscope so all possibilities are investigated before letting it goWed May 31 2023 - 06:01
‘I sit in my car at the top of his road to see where he is going and if he is still with her’Tell Me About It: My first real love announced last year he had resumed contact with an ex and they were giving it a second chance. I want him back - and I hope his relationship will failWed May 24 2023 - 06:01
‘I have met a wonderful man at group therapy, but my therapist and my sister are not happy’Tell Me About It: If this relationship is worth committing to it should be possible for you both to have patienceWed May 17 2023 - 06:01
‘I am terrified that things with my son will return to where they were almost 20 years ago’My son has a long history of depression but he pulled his life around. Now, though, he says he and his wife are going through a rough patch, he has moved back in with me and I can see signs of relapseWed May 10 2023 - 06:01
‘I just don’t get it, but friends and ex-girlfriends have told me I am dull’Tell Me About It: What you have discovered is that what you do is not necessarily what makes you interesting - it has much more to do with your interest in othersWed May 03 2023 - 05:31
‘Why does my husband act like this? An affair I could deal with’Tell Me About It: ‘I find this very strange - I feel that I need to discuss my husband’s crossdressing with him, but I am afraid it will change and possibly end our relationship’Tue Apr 25 2023 - 17:00
‘My mother has been an alcoholic for as long as l can remember and is abusive towards my father’Tell Me About It: My sibling and l are petrified something horrible is going to happenWed Apr 19 2023 - 06:01
‘I was hoping it was just a temporary break but my partner says it’s over for good’Tell Me About It: You must now focus on your wellbeing and take steps to build your life afreshWed Apr 12 2023 - 06:01
‘Our relationship has deteriorated since my wife got a big work promotion’Tell Me About It: I worry I will always lag behind her now, and she criticises me oftenTue Apr 04 2023 - 06:01
‘Romance and intimacy in our relationship has died. But is it better to stay together for the kids?’Tell Me About It: It is unlikely that a couple in a situation such as this will resolve it without some outside interventionWed Mar 29 2023 - 06:01
‘My son just remains in his room, very angry, always complaining of tiredness, eating junk, no sunlight, and just coding all day long’Tell Me About It: Some young men struggle with expressing emotions - fear, pain, loss and shame emerge as anger, rage and withdrawal, and this can be frightening for allWed Mar 22 2023 - 06:01
‘I can’t find fulfilment without being in a relationship’Tell Me About It: You might take this opportunity of singledom to draw breath and allow yourself to fully experience all the emotions arising in your lifeWed Mar 15 2023 - 06:01
‘My daughter is 26 and is so mean... she calls me names, she insults me’Tell Me About It: When she was 13, I became sick and had a late stage cancer diagnosis. She has referenced that in the past – that everything was great until l I got sickWed Mar 08 2023 - 06:01
‘I’m worried I ruined a stranger’s date night’Tell Me About It: Can we really go through life without upsetting anyone?Wed Mar 01 2023 - 06:01
‘I’m beating myself up thinking I ruined my daughter’s life by not being supportive of her decisions’Tell Me About It: I’m beating myself up thinking I ruined her life by not being supportive the first year with her decisionsWed Feb 22 2023 - 06:01
‘I’m pregnant, and for the first time my partner’s unpredictability is no longer attractive’Tell Me About It: What I liked about him when we first met is now a cause for concernWed Feb 15 2023 - 06:01
‘I don’t know what to do. I’ve never told anybody what happened and know nobody would believe me’Tell Me About It: ‘I was sexually assaulted by a man who is now very elderly and has dementia’Thu Feb 09 2023 - 11:34
‘I barely recognise our 17-year-old son any more, either physically or emotionally’Tell Me About It: I feel we have lost our lovely child during CovidWed Feb 01 2023 - 06:01
‘I find my husband’s tattoo repulsive. We now sleep in separate rooms and no longer have sex’Tell Me About It: ‘I do not want to tell my husband that I find his altered body to be vile. I spoke with a female friend, and she said I was just being selfish’Wed Jan 25 2023 - 06:01
‘I will inherit my aunt’s house, so my cousins don’t think they’re responsible for her any more’Tell Me About It: ‘My cousins point out that I also inherited my parents’ estate, and as my family were significantly wealthier than theirs, it seemed very unfair’Wed Jan 18 2023 - 06:01
