Sir, – I have been listening to a few brave people discussing their grief with Colm Ó Mongáin on the RTÉ radio Liveline programme this past week or so.
I find it easier to put my dreadful grief down on paper. Whatever works. I lost my lovely wife Breege, coming up to two years now, in October 2023. I keep forgetting that she’s gone, so I relive the dreadful trauma nearly every few minutes.
The tears flow endlessly as different memories come to mind. The pain that comes with the tears is excruciating. I still feel quite lost. I still feel angry at times. My heart is broken to bits. It doesn’t get any better – I could go on and on.
So many wonderful people try to comfort you. I read and purchase more books than I can keep up with. We really must start talking more openly about grief in this country. If we do not have the words we might turn to someone and get help professionally.
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Expressing our feelings and getting help to understand them might support us all better. It is a very lonely place to try and manage on our own.
Will the grief ever ease? I really don’t think so. One has to learn to live with their grief as best one can – it is never going away. I never stop talking about my grief and probably never will.
Perhaps if we reach out to each other or to a professional for help, we could better find a way through? But we can’t do this unless we talk about it. – Yours, etc,
BRIAN McDEVITT,
Glenties,
Co Donegal.
